"I don't have a dream, a goal." she said.
I knew exactly what she meant. As a woman who climbed and, yes achieved some significant ascents, I had only dreamed the possibility of them when a man, my husband, had believed in me. These were not really my dreams as much as they were his dreams.
Now entering midlife, with possibly as many years ahead of me as behind me, I ponder what I dream of achieving now. It is limited. There is no relationship in my life directing me. It seems hard to know what I really want now and whether what I want will be possible as I step into unknown territory where my body is changing so much I am not sure about it at all. This has me reflecting on what is required to dream the dream.
5. Joy is essential to doing anything for any length of time. People who climb mountains and motivate themselves to tolerate the discomfort, the fear, the loneliness all on a much deeper level experience joy. Joy comes in the deep connections we make when we share our story. Joy arises in the beauty that we witness through the process. Joy is in our hearts when we experience our own strength of will and overcome our self doubt.