2018... Healing #metoo

My last post was about a guide questioning my ability to keep up with the group.
I felt sorry for myself. I felt judged. I did buy the story that I might not be strong enough, fit enough.
But I still need to heal. 
His intention was not to be unkind, but his words still made me feel hurt.

THE PROBLEM
We cannot control how what we say makes someone else feel.
We cannot stop people from saying things or doing things that hurt us.

THE SOLUTION
You can control how you think about yourself. 
You can tell your own truth about the experience.
As Brené Brown says, "Shame cannot survive empathy." But the truth is, sometimes we have to be our own provider of that empathy. 
We need to find the people who matter. Who will hold us and hold us to account. 
And until we do, we have to hold ourselves.
Speaking our truth is the power of holding oneself with respect & love.
​It is self care. No one else can speak your truth.