I know that the best I can be only happens when my desire to control the outcome is released. Years of over exerting in a movement only to fall has taught me well, the mind needs to let go of the outcome in order to allow the body to relax into the effort.
The same is true in relationships. Letting go of what my desire for the relationship is, allows the relationship to be what it is meant to be.
No different in our desires for who we want to become. As we move forward with our 40 day challenges, remember to let go of the need for the outcome and,accept where we are in the moment moving forward with courage. That is the ultimate wisdom.